
Iโd venture to say that most people I know have never hosted a dinner party. Now, before you tell me you have… think about it. Iโm talking about a real, small-scale dinner party. Eight people or fewer. Around one table. Sharing a meal and actually talking to one another.
So Iโll ask again: Have you?
If the answer is no, I have one simple request for you: Host one.
Not someday. Not when the house is finished. Not when you finally replace those dining room chairs. Not when you become a better cook. Just invite a few people over and feed them.
You Donโt Need to Be Martha Stewart
You donโt need to be an expert cook. You donโt need a perfectly styled home. You donโt need matching dishes, impressive recipes, or an Instagram-worthy centerpiece. And you definitely donโt need to make an emergency Target run for napkin rings. ๐
You just need to stop treating entertaining like a performance and start treating it like what it actually is: An opportunity to gather.
Somewhere along the way, hosting got tangled up with performing.
We started thinking our homes needed to be spotless before anyone walked through the door. Every dish needed to be a moment. The table had to be perfectly styled. The napkins needed to match. (They donโt. Ever. For any reason.)
And suddenly something that was supposed to be fun became a LOT of work. Too much preparation. Too many expectations. Too much stress. So we stopped inviting people over.
Weโre Missing the Whole Point
Hereโs what bothers me about that. We crave connection. We want community. We want people in our lives whom we can laugh with, share stories with, call when we need something, and sit across the table from for a couple of hours.
But then we convince ourselves that inviting them into our homes has to look a certain way. And our fear of doing it โwrongโ keeps us from doing it at all.
Meanwhile, loneliness and social isolation are real concerns. And going out isnโt always the easiest way to connect. Dinner out can be expensive. Mobility can make restaurants challenging for some people. Food allergies and intolerances can make eating away from home stressful.
Our homes can be part of the answer.
And thatโs one of the reasons Iโm so passionate about bringing back the small dinner party.
Why Eight or Fewer?
Because something wonderful happens when you put a small group around one table. Everyone can be part of the conversation. You can actually hear one another. People who arrived as acquaintances can leave knowing each other a little better. The host gets to sit down and enjoy the evening, too. And you donโt need a huge dining room, an enormous budget, or three days to prepare for it.
Four people counts. Six is wonderful. Eight is plenty. The goal isnโt a crowd. Itโs connection.
Okay, Colleen. Youโve Convinced Me. Now What?
And this is where I know a lot of people get stuck.
Who do I invite? What do I serve? What can I make ahead? What should I buy instead of make? What cocktail goes with dinner? When do I start prepping? What should the table look like?
Iโve got you.
Itโs exactly why I created my Complete Dinner Party Plans. Iโve already done the planning for youโfrom the menu and recipes to the shopping list, prep timeline, shortcuts, cocktails, table inspiration, conversation ideas, and those little details that make an evening feel special.
You donโt have to figure out how to host a dinner party. You just have to decide to host one.
So Hereโs My Challenge to You
Pick a dinner party. Invite a few people. Set the date.
And because I really want you to stop thinking about hosting and actually DO IT, Iโm giving you a little incentive!
This week only, if youโre not already a paid Substack subscriber, you can purchase any of my Complete Dinner Party Plans for just $10โalmost 50% off.
Choose the plan that catches your eye and then do the most important thing: Send the invitations before you have time to talk yourself out of it.
Your house doesnโt need to be perfect. Your food doesnโt need to be perfect. You donโt need to be perfect. You just need to open the door.
Letโs Bring the Dinner Party Back
Donโt save this post and tell yourself youโll do it someday. Make today the day you put something on the calendar.
โจ Click the link, choose your Complete Dinner Party Plan for just $10, and set your date. Then text four, six, or eight people and invite them over. LINK
Thatโs it. Iโve taken care of the plan. You take care of gathering the people. โค๏ธ
And when everyone is still sitting around your table long after dinner is over, laughing and telling one more story, I want to hear about it.
This is your sign. Host the dinner party.
Cheers!
Colleen




