Two years ago, I was invited to a themed party that celebrated a specific day. I only knew the host, but I was excited to go and join the fun. And what a great time it was—amazing food, laughter, new friends, and an afternoon full of memories.
The following year, though, I wasn’t invited. And I’ll be honest—it stung a little. I felt left out. But then I reminded myself of something every good host learns eventually: when it’s your party, you get to invite who you want to.
💬 The Plot Twist
Recently, I ran into the same host and told her how much I’d loved that party—and how disappointed I’d been not to see another invite the next year.
She smiled and said, “Funny thing—I didn’t have the party at all.”
When I asked why, she explained that one of her guests’ spouses complained afterward. It had been a women-only afternoon gathering, but he told her she had to include spouses next time. Rather than maintain the event she’d loved and way she’d always had it, she cancelled altogether.
🎈 This Week’s Rule: Host on Your Terms
Here’s the truth:
👉 It’s your party.
👉 You get to invite who you want to be with.
👉 And you never, ever have to apologize for it.
Hosting is about creating joy and connection—not meeting someone else’s expectations. When you host authentically, you attract the kind of guests who appreciate your effort, energy, and spirit.
So whether it’s:
✨ A ladies-only brunch
✨ A cozy couples’ dinner
✨ A friendsgiving with your chosen family
✨ Or a “just us” pizza night
…you have permission to make it yours.
🥂 This Week’s Challenge
As you plan your next gathering, take a minute to think about who fills your cup. That’s your guest list.
💌 Comment below and tell me: Who would make your dream dinner guest list? (It can be anyone—from your best friend to your favorite celebrity chef!) I might feature a few fun answers in next week’s newsletter.
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Because life’s too short to host someone else’s kind of party. Make it yours. 💕
Cheers,
🥂 Colleen
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