When I really started sharing this passion project—creating dinner party menus and plans—I received two kinds of feedback.
One sounded like this:
“This is amazing. I can’t wait to read more.”
The other sounded like this:
“Hosting a dinner party would never work for me.”
Whenever I heard the second response, I always asked the same question:
“Tell me more—why not?”
The answers were honest, familiar, and very human. So today, let’s talk about the most common reasons people think they can’t host—and why I truly believe you can (and should at least try).
1. “I Can’t Cook.”
Is that really true—or is it the easiest way out?
If cooking isn’t your strength, I’ve got you covered. Every recipe in my dinner party guides includes easy, easier, and easiest options, so you can match the effort to your comfort level.
And here’s a spoiler alert worth repeating:
You do not have to make everything yourself.
Great hosting isn’t about proving culinary skills. It’s about feeding people well—however that happens.
2. “My House Isn’t Guest-Clean.”
Translation: it’s clean… but not guest-clean. And guest-clean means dealing with piles you’ve been ignoring since 2019.
Let me burn these two truths into your memory:
- No one is coming over to see how clean your house is.
- You only need to clean the rooms your guests will use.
That’s it.
The room where you’re eating and the bathroom they’ll use. Everything else? Close the door. No one should be wandering into other rooms anyway.
3. “I Have Kids.”
Honestly? That’s even more reason to host!
Kids can help—and learn—so much from being part of it:
- Setting the table
- Making place cards
- Tidying up
- Helping with simple prep
I’ll also be sharing ideas for keeping kids happily occupied while dinner is happening so you can actually enjoy yourself.
And one more thing:
Watching and helping my parents host dinner parties was my education. It’s how I learned everything I’m sharing with you now.
4. “I Have Dietary Needs.”
This one truly surprises me—because it’s actually the BEST reason to host!
As someone who’s gluten-free, I’ve been to plenty of parties and restaurants where my options were limited (or awkward). When you host, you control the menu. You make food you can eat—and enjoy.
Worried about others being “subjected” to your dietary needs?
Remember: this is not the only meal they’re having that day.
5. “Small Talk for Three Hours Is Exhausting.”
You love people.
From a safe distance.
On your couch.
In pajamas.
I get it.
That’s exactly why I include dinner + activity parties in my monthly plans. Sometimes a little structure—a movie, a game, a shared activity—takes the pressure off constant conversation.
🥂 The Big Truth
You don’t need:
- A perfect house
- Advanced cooking skills
- Endless energy
- A reason “big enough”
You just need a table and the willingness to try. I’m giving you the plan.
And, of course, I’ll be right here, helping you every step of the way.
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Here’s to trying once, learning as you go, and realizing you’re more capable than you thought
Cheers,
Colleen 🥂
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